I Need An Outfit

Please give me your thoughts. I’m plus size and quite cury, short too, if that helps.

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This is just a skirt, which I would wear with a white tank probably and maybe a belt.

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Comes in blue too, also black and white but I’m trying to stick with color.

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I feel like this dress could be iffy, plus I think I’d have to wear a strapless bra with it, which really won’t work because of my boobs and that I’ll be photographing a wedding in it.

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I don’t have a shot of this on anyone, which leaves me unsure and it’s maybe a little boring. I like the style of the top though.

Thoughts?

All items by eshakti.com.

Tea Bagging and Friendships

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I feel like I’m losing many of my friends to the dark side and I don’t quite know how to deal with it. I think a lot of my friends have started seeing guys who seem to lean more to the Tea Bagger side than to the liberal side. I’m noticing my friends posting more obsessive pro-American posts and a lot of stuff about loving the army and hating President Obama. I would have thought living in Massachusetts would have saved me from so much of this but apparently not.

Now the easiest thing to do would be ignore these things and just stay off of this subject with them but I’m not very good at either of those things. I love my friends so much but it happens all the time that people go in different directions in life and lose touch. I’ve lost touch with a lot of friends over the years because they’ve moved or our lives went in different directions. This never seems to end though, the older you get the harder it is to sustain friendships. At least, it is for me I guess.

I get that it’s not easy on their end to see me sharing things on Facebook about recycling or about changing gun laws or about being disappointed in my country. But to be fair it seems a lot of their stuff is much more aggressive, but maybe I’m just sensitive. Ok, I’m definitely too sensitive. I wish there was a way to block Tea Bagging stuff from my Facebook because I can’t help but get upset when I see such stuff like “IF YOU DON’T LIKE AMERICA — JUST GET OUT.” That pisses me off because:

A. Just because I don’t think American is perfect (and obviously you don’t either since you don’t like the president and many other things about this country) doesn’t mean I have to leave.
B. I actually would love to move away and experience something other than the United States but I can’t afford to go anywhere else.
C. I firmly believe that coddling your child isn’t going to help them become the best they can be so why would it be good for your country?

It’s hard to find ways to be friends with people you love but disagree with so fundamentally. Most people seem to be able to put this aside and pretend it doesn’t exist, I guess I’m just not built this way.

Versatile Blogger Award

Nominated by Jenny Pugh! Mind you my British Telly blog was the one that was mentioned but I don’t usually post personal things on that blog so I’m putting that here.

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I don’t have a lot of bloggers to recommend because I’ve only just gotten back into blogging again, even though I’ve been doing it for years.

Some oldies but goodies I still follow:

Avitable

Tara Lynn Johnson

The Absence of Alternatives

I Eat Pop Tarts

Some new blogs:

The World of Jenny Pugh

A Little British Pea

Anteater in Bristol

7 things about me:

1. I’m a huge Anglophile and am obsessed with everything British. I especially love British television like Skins, Misfits and Luther.

2. I’m such a cat person. I’ve had cats my whole life and still miss the ones I lost. I have no plans to have any children but as far as I’m concerned my cats are my children.

3. I was raised Jewsih (had a Bat Mitzvah and everything) but I’m now athiest.

4. I do portrait photography on the side and all my other photography is all hobby. I love it, it’s when I feel the most calm.

5. I was at Woodstock 99.

6. I had my first date at age 4.

7. I get night terrors.

Lessons Unfortunately Learned

High expectations of people around you will lead to disappointment. I know this. I know that people are generally not on the same wavelength and one person will be expecting more than another person.

Back when my furkid Pilot got sick with cancer, had a leg amputated, an eye tumor removed and then died I desperately needed my friends to gather around me. To my surprise the ones that did show up were the ones that I didn’t expect, like my college friends who don’t entirely get my love for my cats. They sent me cards, called and even came by my house to cheer me up.

There were friends of mine I really expected to want to be there for me and weren’t, I don’t think our relationship will ever be the same. The hardest part was how many times I’d been there for them over the years. This all really opened my eyes to something I didn’t really want to see but I can’t unsee.

I’m also trying to build a relationship with my brother from pretty much nothing. We were never close and we’ve come to realize that we’d like to be have a relationship. It’s not easy and will take a lot of work on both ends. We’re 7 years apart, which is a much bigger age gap than one might think. The older we get the more the gap closes and we can communicate more like adults. As long as we both want to get to a better place I believe it will happen.

I suppose I really need to learn to stop expecting anything and just live with what is. Though I do think the world is changing quickly into a place where people take things and others for granted. I guess there isn’t much I can do about that, I just have decide what I’m willing to live with and what I can’t. It’s a daily adjustment but I’m figuring it out.